I know. I've been conducting an experiment socially involving female toplessness in New York City where is has been legal for decades and it has been incredibly stressful in every way imaginable... leading me to coin the term Post-Topless Stress Disorder. Excellent Analysis compadre cuz it is surviving and overcoming the hardship that makes you stronger, I guess the people who experience this in reality are the ones who will understand. Isn't "toughening up" actually shaping personality? My concern is that the DSM is continually expanding the list of personality and behavioural 'disorders' and professionals are all-too-keen to relate what Szasz has called 'problems in living' to incidents of childhood 'trauma'. For me, at least. Traumatic events give us the option to greatly appreciate happy states of being moving forward or live in suffering. Severe parental abuse and neglect can indeed disturb personality development fundamentally, particularly for certain children who are already vulnerable temperamentally (genetically). How Do Dreams Change Throughout a Night of Sleep? Just a gloomy one. Hold true to the decision to remain in the driving seat of life, to not be defeated by life's INEVITABLE pains and frustrations, to instead positively USE them as means to grow. And this is true for humans as well. 6.”Adventure may hurt you but monotony will kill you.” When I was a child, I used to read books voraciously. They are more, not less likely to struggle in the world. I also think that people from south central tend to be stronger than suburbanites. And yes, clearly, parents are important to children. (Siblings who grow up with the same parents don't resemble each other at all in personality; adoption studies consistently show that one's basic personality is as a rule predicted better by one's biological rather than adoptive parents, etc.) My Soldiers who have PTSD issues who were loved when growing up have a soft place to land when their hearts are scarred by their experiences, do well and move on. Pathologizing the pain of life is indeed misguided, and so is romanticizing such pain. Strength does not come from winning. One client who'd lost an arm in Viet Nam for example, helped establish an organization in his city that had war veteran amputees assisting children who'd also suffered an amputation to the obvious betterment of both. because i'm troubled). Muscle tear--trauma, etc. Participants who were near the World Trade Center on 9/11 had significantly higher amygdala activity when looking at the fearful faces compared to those who were living more than 200 miles away. Twilight of the Idols (1888), "Maxims and Arrows", aphorism 8: What does not destroy me, makes me stronger. This is called confirmation bias. People who go through the hardship of training tend to improve their performance. It is for the above reasons that assessing the statistics of children who grew up in 'tough' neighborhoods as a measure of trauma/outcome derivatives may be misleading. The first paragraph of the book says, "Life is difficult... once we truly understand and accept that, it is no longer difficult." What it shows is that early trauma predicts later behavioral and emotional difficulties. Suffering as an adult often comes from childhood, from parents or siblings but may be from many other things. It is not that you don't have an influence on their lives, well-being, development, happiness, attachment, feeling of security, self-confidence etc., you just can't change their personalities and make let's say an extravert from an introvert. Tender love and care toughen you up, because they nurture and strengthen your capacity to learn and adapt—including learning how to fight, and adapting to later hardship. but not all challenges, even severe ones, are necessarily "traumas". You can read Judith Harris's The Nurture Assumption to see a nice summary of the issue. But the whole point of maxims like Nietzsche's - leaving aside all the empirical facts about how we acquire resilience within our experience - is that they're about promoting a certain attitude and a certain decision. if coddling were the wellspring of strength, the generation presently in ownership of the industrialized world would be the physically, emotionally, and intellectually fittest group of persons ever to have lived. It is commonly said that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You should know better. The evidence from developmental research overwhelmingly shows that they don't. What proves your point is siblings. I agree with you that our negative emotional experiences generally weaken us - in the same way that physical trauma does - but I am not convinced that we should see psychological trauma as a medical problem. Short sighted article on the whole. For our minds, however, the leap is short between seeing the strong emerge from a calamity and concluding that they are strong because of the calamity. And also the attitude "let's teach music so students are better at reading/math" is a little repugnant to me, because it doesn't value music for its own sake. “You just hold your head high and keep those fists down. I would agree that at times "what doesn't kill us makes us weaker" - and this may, in fact, be the general trend of most humans. But that's very different from claiming that listening to or liking one particular musical genre makes you superior in some way. Muscle cramp--no trauma. but rather to suggest that mental and emotional pain are simply aspects of living. the tough neighborhood - a place where they are more likely than not, going to experience more trauma as adults.). Group studies are unfortunately just measure a group and return a group average, not an individual diagnosis. Where each child takes on a certain role to cope with a dysfunctional situation? This is a blog, not a scientific paper. Psychotherapy requires the 'patient' to chase down the child that is long gone and the longer the treatment goes on, the more you realise that there is nothing beyond the horizon of the ever-receding Self. What is the purpose of the experiment you are conducting? The pigeons become, in a sense, superstitious. I believe that trauma and suffering left untreated or undealt with certainly weakens, but I believe the opportunity also exists for some to use their pain as a way to grow at least spiritually stronger. Intact things work better. Others, not so much. It is possible - and the attitude that it can be done need not necessarily be a detrimental one. But I think there are special cases where mental resilience in the face of trauma and suffering actually DOES make people come out stronger in the end. My op. The interesting irony of this article is how he contradicts his own argument. See: 50 Great Myths of Popular Psychology: Shattering Widespread Misconceptions about Human Behavior I wouldn't be surprised if the next title of his post is "why Japanese are superior to white people.". Thanks for such a fantastic article. Good children often create good parents. Antidepressant Drugs May Act in a Previously Unknown Way, How Narcissists See Daily Interactions With Their Partners, 16 Ways to Test How Much Your Partner Cares About You, When Narcissists and Enablers Say You're Too Sensitive, Psychology Today © 2021 Sussex Publishers, LLC, Traumatic Brain Injuries Affect More than the Brain, How Social Isolation and Loneliness Impact Brain Function. What doesn't kill us in fact makes us weaker. Also, those who've been through trauma are indeed survivors, and they are better off than those who did not survive the trauma. For some reason, when we are happy or content we don't reflect or analyze ourselves and/or our actions, but when we undergo a hardship, we tend to ponder about what went wrong. Then you conclude that "tender love and care toughen you up". — Was mich nicht umbringt, macht mich stärker. Half of the participants were within 1.5 miles of the World Trade Center on 9/11 and the other half lived at least 200 miles away. In fact, people who've gone through trauma are not 'better at recognizing fearful expressions and reading their surroundings.' Is it not as equally plausible that these individuals are simply sensitized to traumatic experiences - and that this brain activity alone has nothing to do with 'weakness' or 'strength' outcomes - but merely an expression of the experience? We are all survivors of some form of pain and suffering. What shall I choose? A difficult task and one he never envisioned the rank and file of humanity living up to. Do I see the slings and arrows of fate merely as factors that degrade me or magically make me stronger? As I myself have endured life's trials and tribulations that have infact made me a stronger person in many aspects, but on the other hand, one who has come to the realization of understanding those weaknesses brought on by life's trials and tributlations and overcoming them is what makes you stronger, not the hardship itself. As do we. Most of the links made by people between their early experience with their parents and their current lives are no more than useful fiction. When two things happen together, we assume they are meaningfully linked, and then we rush to bind them in a quite unholy cause-and-effect matrimony. You must have competent parents to live. I agree. Don't be fooled by its passive, event-follows-event way of framing human life! You need them to survive, but, assuming they are of decent quality, they don't decide the type of person you'll become. We stopped checking for monsters under our bed, when we realized they were inside us. You don't have to look very far in order to see the extent to which pain and suffering shapes us individually and, also, culturally, as a society. Steve Jobs was a classic example of what your analysis is and there are so many individuals irrespective of caste, creed or religion all over the world. This research is giving us clues about the biology underlying that vulnerability." And the sad things is, if I hadn't been through such tough times, I wouldn't be so depressed about this article. I’m different, f*ck your opinion. Enduring hardships throughout life indirectly make you a stronger person. Good discussion. A tear in the muscle can be identified via sonography and treated with anti-inflammatory agents and rest - a tear in the psyche can neither be objectively determined nor, ultimately, 'corrected'. Scientific support for my claim, however, is abundant in the developmental literature. When you tend to your garden, you are not turning your sunflowers into roses. Thanks for the commment, but if you read carefully, you'll find that what bedevils you here are your own logical contradictions. But the bulk of psychological research on the topic shows that, as a rule, if you are stronger after hardship, it is probably despite, not because of the hardship. And there's a lot of circular reasoning (why am I troubled? Toughening up is not shaping personality, it's allowing personality to remain intact. It's just like what you said, some kids turn out okay despite it. misanthropope, your post seems to read : laceration = Psychological hardship,Care = coddling. I personally prefer to change my flawed beliefs before they cause irreversible damage. When trauma and hardship do leave a mark, it is usually a bruise under the skin, not a notch on the belt. Our parents didn't want us to be envious of each other and so we wore the same clothes and when she received a present, I received an identical one and vice versa. As a visual artist of skill who has struggled for years for personal reasons, some of which are traumatic, I must say that the only thing more difficult than continuing to find the motivation to do anything but lay down and die *which is how I have felt for much of my life) is trying to find a way to cope with the all pervasive notion that my suffering should somehow lead to the production of excellent art and when...it inevitably does not how to deal with the ensuing feelings that there is some thing horribly wrong with me because it has not. He uses his field less as a science, and more as twisting around facts to support personal beliefs. "Our findings suggest that there may be long-term neurobiological correlates of trauma exposure, even in people who appear resilient," said Dr. Barbara Ganzel, the lead researcher, "We have known for a long time that trauma exposure can lead to subsequent vulnerability to mental health disorders years after the trauma. It starts with recognizing our own patterns and understanding why we came to be this way. Friedrich Nietzsche. But the truth is just the opposite. I believe that whatever doesn’t kill you simply makes you stronger! Though these aspects of life can make you stronger they first make you weak, such as developing personality traits that are viewed as weak attributes.  Christopher Hitchens ' book Mortality has an extended reflection on the quote, written as he was dying. Yes adaptation does depend on the individual. It's just illogical. It is not possible to compare emotional states to physical ones. Agreed. I've been there. It is naive to think critical thinking can be developed if one is raised in a "polyannish" fashion, like a good puppy. I don't equate coddling with loving. (i.e. I never gave a thought to my sister and took for granted our relationship until I discovered that she had been lying to me and stealing part of the money I sent to support our mother. But human beings are not bacteria, and good training is not a traumatic event. I argued it has no effect on the child's personality. Why the future doesn’t need us. It was a good article yet missing the personal touch. Hence, the ideal of the 'Ubermensch' - the one who could embrace his suffering and incorporate it into an aesthetic re-formation of the self in order to say a resounding 'yes' to life. The drugs are problematic enough but leading the mind down the labyrinthine paths of distorted childhood memories and negative life experiences can become an unremitting nightmare. Noam Shpancer, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at Otterbein College and a practicing clinical psychologist in Columbus, Ohio. I agree with the premise of this article. Strength Stronger Us I love those who can smile in trouble, who can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. But parents don't determine your personality. It's just wrong and serves only to ease the minds of people who don't feel comfortable around suffering. Strength is size doesn’t mean you have to Deadlift 700lb like Arnold. Thus, we have developed many ways to try to ease it—one of which is bestowing upon it transformative powers (another is by believing in an afterlife, of which Freud disapproved; still another is cocaine, of which he was, for a time, a fan). If neurons that fire together, wire together, then there can be no surprise that a developing brain shaped by 'trauma' will inevitably process life's vicissitudes from the standpoint of anxiety and fear. But it is not the calamity that made them so. They have the same parents and still each one is different, with a different set of values and behavior. Thank you, I think I'm just about to understand :) Our brain is a meaning-making machine, designed to sort vast and varied sensory information into coherent, orderly perception, organized primarily in the form of narrative: this happened, which led to that, which ended up so. I suffer greatly from painful physical symptoms such as nerve neuropathies and other stress related issues, and I seriously doubt that they have been or can be good for me. Those who have been through trauma should be better at recognizing fearful expressions and reading their surroundings. As if it were a brute fact: things happen to you, good or bad, and this then has a mere effect on you, good or bad. Then he argues that experiencing trauma weakens people. “A happy marriage doesn’t mean you have a perfect spouse or a perfect marriage. Chasm definition is - a deep cleft in the surface of a planet (such as the earth) : gorge. In terms of behavioral and emotional difficulties, when we combine affect regulation and behavior, are we not left with a person's personality? Once you venture out of that range, the rules change. I've just read the article with much interest, as my own opinion is such that trauma is trauma and maybe some people are more resilient, but the truth is that trauma causes physical stresses which can no more strengthen a person than a blown out tire is stronger after blowing. I think we should pay attention more to these special cases and find out how we can (indeed) grow stronger after a bout of pain and suffering. VC: good points all. In full, it is: Aus der Kriegsschule des Lebens. Most people, he said, believe that wild street dogs make the best anti-terrorist dogs, having survived the, well, dog-eat-dog world of the mean streets. The man doesn't even enable his comment section because he knows people are going to point out how full of crap he is. People with a firm foundation of love and support are harder to rock. Is that conclusion not completely in contradiction to his initial point? This build can kill almost anyone who doesn’t have mist form, and it’s even stronger in No-cp. I thought for a moment this part of your article sounded a little questionable, so I followed the link. It seems to me, that it is far more relevant how this sensitization works in conjunction with other brain activity (such as problem solving, executive function, or fight-flight response) that may be more indicative of a person's ability to remain resilient in the face of difficulty (an indicator of over all strength and adaptation) rather than a generalized susceptibility to trauma. Now, it is true that, in an evolutionary sense, those who survive a calamity are by definition the fittest. It's shoehorning the "A" into STEM to make STEAM, etc. I have often repeated Nietzsche's famous quotation to myself in my head when I've been going through turbulent times. I think this might, like most psychological phenomena, depend on the individual. And I agree that we should look deeply into cases of 'growing stronger through calamity' to find out what individual characteristics and environmental conditions (i suspect they interact) facilitate such experiences. The temptation is there to speak causally from correlational data but we have to resist it. I can assure you, if someone in that intimate of a position turns out to be a bully who treats you like an inferior and lies to you, it can be VERY damaging. The scapegoated child is always labeled as "acting out", when he is reacting to rather than complying with something that he knows is wrong or unhealthy. I completely agree with you. Jangother: The dog anecdote was used to illustrate the point in an interesting, creative way, not to prove the point. I agree that sometimes correlated events are linked causally but technically speaking, we need to be able to demonstrate that experimentally before we can start to speak in those terms. Is the suffering you are in truly because of the experiment alone or because of a past event? I have been fighting for years to get back on my feet. Satoshi is the guy responsible for asinine posts like "why liberals are more intelligent than conservatives" and "why atheists are more intelligent..." etc. But others are weightier. This would presumably be an advantage over others who do not demonstrate such findings, and lead this individual to better confront future traumatic experiences with an arsenal of tools for dealing with it. It's like learning that Santa Claus isn't real...but much, much worse. And yet most people will make all kinds of excuses to not lift heavy. I have an only sister, 2 years older than me. This is often the same difference between a teacher / professor, and a field professional (read as psychologist vs. psychiatrist). Street dogs are useless for this—or any other—work because they are unpredictable and not trainable. Though I have been diagnosed with PTSD, everyone that knows me says I'm strong. I might not be the most balanced person, but it takes a lot to phase me. because i was under or over punished. This article seems typical to me of so many in empirical psychology - which take every proposition, even an existentialist one like 'What doesn't kill you makes you stronger', as if it were supposed to be understood as an empirical truth. That link was put in there by the site's editors. Success After failure and failure after success the person equipped with bearing the shocks and keep on walking wins the day on the other hand the person who never walks through a shock maybe unable to stand up again as depicted aptly as satire in movies the Armani suited executive jumping of the upteenth floor on the coming of bad news, Or in reality the News about individuals breaking down we hear it everyday. Well, technically, it wasn't you who said that about parenting, it was the article that you referenced with your link. that seems to be what you have here, a very subtle fallacy. To invoke another, more whimsical, quote from Goldman's The Princess Bride, 'Life is pain - anyone who says differently is selling something.' It makes them strong. Friedrich Nietzsche. Trauma has become a concept that is too-readily applied and bandied about and the resulting diagnoses and treatments can be 'traumatising' in and of themselves. Or do I decide to use them as spurs to my own chosen self-becoming? Love is taking an interest in the well being of others and giving a part of yourself to that person. Also agreed that every law in psychology has exceptions. Lauren: available evidence contradicts your storyline. Coddling and Care are not the same nor are Psychological hardship and laceration. It's not a bad article. Zelf schreef ze er nog ‘what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger’ bij - wat je niet doodt, maakt je sterker. But psychological research has shown that a history of chaos and trauma actually hinders our ability to thrive. This tendency to infer causality from co-occurrence is not limited to humans; caged pigeons, receiving food at random intervals not related to their behavior, will nevertheless repeat any movement they happened to be doing before food appeared. For instance, if upon viewing traumatic images, a post-traumatic person's 'emotional' center was triggered, as well as specific regions of executive function, it would seem that the contrary conclusion this article would be true - that the 'traumatic' experience merely merged emotive registers with problem solving activity. It is then that we learn and become stronger. He seems to be ignoring tons of research into the effects of maternal depression, childhood trauma, etc. Certainly a child who is traumatized will have tremendous barriers to overcome later in life. Nietzschian—and country song—wisdom notwithstanding, we are not stronger in the broken places. He's not a credible source. There are no facts, only interpretations. That which does not kill us makes us stronger. It wasn't my intention to romanticise pain (perhaps I've read too much Nietzsche!) But what evidence do you have that the current generation isn't on the whole the fittest group ever? Liz: In the big pcture, the facts are always our friends. He who has a why to live can bear almost any how. The only sensible way to live is without rules. By Scott O. Lilienfeld, Steven Jay Lynn, John Ruscio, Barry L. Beyerstein, Also here: What was interesting is that when I confronted her in person about her fraud, she blurted out that our parents loved me more than they loved her: a wonderful excuse to justify her stealing the money--her excuse. How to use chasm in a sentence. Counseling is on an individual basis, person to person, and stays that way. If you can’t fly then run, if you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward. What does not kill him, makes him stronger. Regarding your last question, about whether parenting affects personality, the weight of the evidence strongly suggests that parenting behaviors predict very little of the child's subsequent personality. Within a fairly broad range of basic parental competence, there does not seem to be a strong link between early experience and adult personality. The comparison through simile is poetically valid but no logically valid conclusion can reasonably be drawn from it without resulting fallacy. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink, but they whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves their conduct, will pursue their principles unto death. Cheers to you mate have a nice one. Then, because I was hurt, I took the time to analyze what went wrong and deal with this painful situation. â Was mich nicht umbringt, macht mich stÃ¤rker. I personally do not believe in the rampant dispensing of drugs, nor do I practice a "group therapy session". One finds this again and again in psychology. Out of lifeâs school of war â What does not kill me makes me stronger. Trainable dogs will die in their work. 94. Adult children of alcoholics do not display a distinct profile of symptoms. It does. “Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.” … Individual differences exist in this as in practically every realm of human experience. Dreams have been described as dress rehearsals for real life, opportunities to gratify wishes, and a form of nocturnal therapy. To not pathologize or romanticize pain... How Therapy Works: The Importance of Skill Building, Why Change Is Hard Even When We Know It’s Needed, The Prevalence of the Arab-as-Terrorist Stereotype. Good points all, Ted. See, this is how crazy Batman’s made Gotham! While I generally agree with you, the way I work is to help my clients find some meaning in their trauma such that they can use it to overcome a lot of the initial damage they've experienced. I too am an addictions therapist and I've certainly seen the effects of trauma on people at all stages of their lives. This statement, however, holds true within a broad range of normal parenting behavior. 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